Going solo?*

"How do I get my wife/ husband involved with our finances?"

This is a very common question.

The key is to involve your spouse in making decisions on their terms.

Don't say, "I think we should buy a new car." 

Rather ask what your spouse's thoughts are on your means of transportation.

Don't say, "I think we should buy a new house." 

Rather get to know your spouse well enough to know whether they want to move or not.

Don't say your spouse needs to be better with money. 

Rather say, "I will be more disciplined with money and then find out what my spouse needs and wants.

And then I will get it for them."

Most often spouses aren't involved in decision making because one spouse has neglected the practice of consulting and truly valuing the others point of view for an extended period of time.

The best cure is to change self.

Change your desires/ motives so that you truly want what is best for your spouse, not merely what is best for you.

Use your own frugality to bless their lives and whether they come on board with frugality or not your family will have abundance.

 

(*Original blog from in archives)