My Mom often told me, "Ryan, love people and use things, not the other way around." Apt advice for a teenager who was perhaps more than a bit narcissistic.
This advice has influenced me in many ways throughout my life, especially in the financial arena.
Perceived dilemmas are now compared to the "Thing-O-Meter." The "Thing-O-Meter" is a feeling I get when my purchases or time allotments are focused entirely on me.
- Should I work late and make more money or get home for dinner?
- Do I splurge and buy really nice flowers for my wife just because I love her (no birthday or major holiday required)?
- Do I take that trip to see a good friend or relative or do I stay and rack up more vacation time?
- Do I spend the money to create never-to-be-forgotten memories or use it instead to try to impress people with a home remodel?
- Should I let me child eat ice cream in my car or keep a spotless interior?
Being frugal in some areas allows us to be free and happy in other areas. Frugal habits allow us
to indulge in the areas that matter most. And the areas that bring the most joy are invariable people-centric.
Go ahead and try it. Use things to love people.